4 years and 4 lessons

Today, 4 years ago- in the POURING rain, Frank and I put of our super fancy clothes and pledged to each other to love each other, cherish each other and to respect each other for the rest of our lives.  That was cute.  I had no idea what I was getting myself into nor did I understand (do I still?!?) what I was promising.

So here are my top 4 lessons learned in my 4 short years of marriage:

1.  Fight naked.  Yes, do it.  When it gets nasty, get naked.  It usually makes the argument seem so silly and I know for sure I"m less likely to get verbally nasty when I'm physically so vulnerable to my mate.

2.  Feed your man well and first.  When you need something, need to talk about something or just need his ear, he will more than likely be more attentive when his belly is full and it was tasty.

3.  Have sex often.  It will make you more connected to each other AND it will make keeping his eyes just on you way easier.

4.  Date nights.  Don't talk about the kids or work or money.  There is other times  to do that, talk about your hopes, your dreams, what is going on in that heart of yours.  When we do, it's amazing what we can learn about each other!


So there you have it.  My top 4.  Am I perfect at this?  No way.  But I sure am trying to be great at it.  Frank- here's to the next 84 years... may we love hard, forgive often and laugh through the good times and the trials.